In one of her most candid interviews ever, actress Stella Damasus opened up about
her life, struggles, her first and second marriage & what we care most about, her
relationship with Daniel Adenimokun.
She said she didn't steal him and implied that
when she met him, he was already single.
Speaking with Emma Emerson of Golden Icons, Stella Damasus opened up about her
relationship with Daniel. She said;
"Let me put it this way. Let me help you hit the nail on the head. One of the
comments I have seen consistently, over and over again, is ‘Stella snatches
somebody’s husband’, ‘Stella the husband snatcher’, which is what has been going
on. And I had sworn that I would never talk about it, or even listen or stress
myself about this thing but I have decided to do this now, so that I end this once
and for all.
First of all, let me paint a picture for you and you let me know what makes
sense to you. When I looked up the word snatch or steal, ehh, let’s go to the
dictionary. It means, forcefully taking something away from its original position.
Forcefully. From its original position to another position. Something that does not
belong to you. That’s what I gathered from the word snatch or steal.
So I looked at me, Stella, and I wondered to myself, how is it possible to go to
somebody’s home, and take a man, and take his son, away from his home and say
follow me. You are a man, and according to their story, he is happily married
inside his home. With his family complete and I walk into that home, to forcefully
take a man, abled bodied man, and a kid, away from somebody’s hand and you
are there looking at me. How does that work?
Did they accuse me of using voodoo? Yes or no? They said no. Okay, did I put a
gun on anybody’s head and remove somebody from somewhere? They said no. So
logically, if people actually sit down and think about it intelligently, how do you
snatch somebody from somebody and the person is there looking at you?
So when you see a man who has settled ties with a woman and decides to move on
with his life and you feel that there is something in this man that you like and
he likes you. I am not a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not about to start hiding
myself. I was waiting for somebody to actually ask me this question, because all I
have heard for the past two, three years are rumours. They said, blogs said, this
said. Nobody has been bold enough to confront me and ask me. So I say, if I
steal something from somebody, and the person is really the owner of the thing,
you come and ask me, ‘you took something from me, give me back’.
But nobody was able to that. And I am like, if I meet an able bodied man that
has left and moved on. That is not even in the same house with whoever and is
not doing anything with whoever, and both parties have decided this thing is not
going anywhere, and they have gone their separate ways, why is it that it easier
for the world to blame the woman that the man has decided to end up with?
Why is it that it is always that woman that scattered that home? The two people
that did things that nobody was there, nobody said something must have
happened between this two people but it is always somebody else that is the
problem. And I always say, I do not tolerate blaming anybody for your own
problems. I have had problems.
After my late husband’s death, I got married again and the marriage didn’t
work. After eight (8) months, it crashed. People didn’t hear much about it, why?
We were both mature to understand that we came together, we knew that the
thing was not working, instead of us to become enemies we will remain friends,
let’s just let it go quietly. And we let it go quietly. I didn’t blame anybody else
for doing it, he didn’t blame anybody else for doing it. So I am wondering, two
people come together they go their separate ways, this one meets somebody, all
of a sudden, it is that somebody that is the problem. Did anybody ever ask, what
went wrong? Why would a man pick up his son and walk away from his marriage?
Was there anytime another woman was the problem until the man moved on with
another woman? Nobody brought up Stella’s name, then all of a sudden, ‘oh he’s
moved on with somebody else (snaps fingers), it must be her’. How? I am still
waiting for somebody to come with proof to say ‘oh when they were still in
marriage, when they were still in a house, you came and did this.’ So the reason
why I don’t like talking about it is that, there are some things I would say to you
and you would look at me like ‘oh wow’ but I don’t want to be derogatory, I don’t
want to tow the line that other people have towed by talking bad about people.
I would never do that but the stories started coming. At first I ignored it, I just
kept quiet, and then it was all over the place, Google, blogs, and I am like, one
day, one day, I would tell my story.
There’s a reason why I am respecting certain
people, respecting certain legal issues that are going on. So there might be some
things I may not hammer on, but whenever you hear this person snatched this
person’s, you will ask the person, the person that they said was the original
owner, what was the person doing when they were snatching the person from him
or her? I don’t get it. Do you understand?
So I look at it, I am not ugly, I am not dumb. Of all the men in the world, I will
now go and look for somebody else’s own and say this is the one I want. If he
didn’t come out of it and say I want to be with you and you want to be with me,
how? Why would I come and grab…? Am I that bad looking? Am I that old?"
Watch the video below...part 1
Part two where she said all this...
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