While addressing a group of young women at
Kinabuti's Dare2Dream Master Class event which
happened in Lagos recently, Peter Okoye's wife
and mother of 2, Lola Omotayo revealed that she
suffered sexual abuse by a priest when she was in
secondary school and beaten black and blue by a
boyfriend in the university. She said she never
told anyone about the molestation because she
didn't believe anyone would believe her
"I couldn’t tell anyone because everyone
would blame me, so I carried on the guilt and
bitterness with me for years. I was filled
with hate and I became an angry person, I
was rebellious, I didn’t want to listen to
anybody…and because I wanted to be
expelled from school to avoid seeing this
person, I would do so many terrible things,
everything around me was just so negative, I
felt I wasn’t good enough."
‘I moved on to the university, met the love
of my life and I’m like, okay this guy is cool,
he loves me but he started to abuse me. I
was beaten black and blue all the time, in
front of friends, in public and at a point, I
felt, you know what, I am not worthy
enough, there is nothing about me that is
nice, nobody loves me but I hid this from my
family. I felt like a loser, so it was hard for
me to focus. But one day, I woke up and said
I am going to change my story and I dumped
that person, focused on my education and
decided to be serious and be something. I
decided to get a job and go to school full
time in America.’
She said she worked hard to make her own money
so she could be independent and not have to rely
on any man. She said being independent and
making her own money helped her build her
confidence and pushed to achieve more in life. She
then talked about her husband, Peter Okoye
"Look at my husband, when I met him, peeps
were like what are you doing with him, he
has nothing but I stood my ground and chose
to stick with him because he had a dream.
He and his twin brother did not let their
dream die, they worked hard, look at them
today! I stuck by him because he had focus
and drive and today I am happy, I have a
good life, we are happy and we have got a
beautiful family. No one can make you a
loser.’.
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