When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but
anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the
truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop
doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
1.Stop spending time with the wrong people.– Life is too short to spend time with
people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll
make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist
yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not
the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand
beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2.Stop running from your problems.– Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There
is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.
We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made.
In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the
whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the
course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3.Stop lying to yourself.– You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to
yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most
difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
4.Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.– The most painful thing is losing
yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are
special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to
follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5.Stop trying to be someone you’re not.– One of the greatest challenges in life is
being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will
always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger,
but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the
right people will love the real you.
6.Stop trying to hold onto the past.– You can’t start the next chapter of your life if
you keep re-reading your last one.
7.Stop being scared to make a mistake.– Doing something and getting it wrong is at
least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of
failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting
the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8.Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.– We may love the wrong person and cry
about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure,
mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make
mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your
mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape
your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is
preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9.Stop trying to buy happiness.– Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the
truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and
working on our passions.
10.Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.– If you’re not happy with who you
are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else
either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with
someone else.
11.Stop being idle.– Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even
there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot
change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t
make it to second base with your foot on first.
12.Stop thinking you’re not ready.– Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an
opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond
our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
13.Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.– Relationships must
be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need
to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the
right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when
you’re lonely.
14.Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.– In life you’ll
realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will
use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best
in you.
15.Stop trying to compete against everyone else.– Don’t worry about what others are
doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is
a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
16.Stop being jealous of others.– Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s
blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that
everyone wants?”
17.Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.– Life’s curveballs are thrown for
a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or
understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back
on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that
eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So
smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday,
and you will be.
18.Stop holding grudges.– Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up
hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you
did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my
happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!
And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must,
forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19.Stop letting others bring you down to their level.– Refuse to lower your standards
to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
20.Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.– Your friends don’t need it and
your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
21.Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.– The time to
take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re
doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance
yourself to see things clearly.
22.Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.– Enjoy the little things, because
one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of
your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who
matters to you.
23.Stop trying to make things perfect.– The real world doesn’t reward
perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.(Read Getting Things Done.)
24.Stop following the path of least resistance.– Life is not easy, especially when you
plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something
extraordinary.
25.Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.– It’s okay to fall apart for a little
while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to
constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what
other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your
tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
26.Stop blaming others for your troubles.– The extent to which you can achieve your
dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you
blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others
power over that part of your life.
27.Stop trying to be everything to everyone.– Doing so is impossible, and trying will
only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the
whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
28.Stop worrying so much.– Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip
today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask
yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five
years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
29.Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.– Focus on what you do want to
happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you
awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your
life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
30.Stop being ungrateful.– No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day
thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that
everyone else is missing
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