My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your
man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you
when they finally speak with one voice.
• My daughter, I know that some of you girls don’t
wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive,
don’t ever think like that, if you do, well, I think
your son’s wife-to-be should start wishing you're
dead now.
• My daughter, listen to me, when I married your
father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to
grow with him and today, those cars out there are
some of the results of what we started so little,
together, and we’re proud looking at them.
• My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in
your time, some of you girls now get pregnant
before the wedding day, well, it never happened in
our time because no matter what, we never opened
our laps before the wedding.
• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth
of your father because I got to my limit of patience
and that was the only thing I could do, but one
thing I haven’t said was that we settled the issue
that same day and that was the last time I tried
that.
• My daughter, look up there. That’s the wedding
picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I
know you've seen it many times but what you did not
know is that your father was angry before taking
this picture, I hope you find a man whose anger
doesn't last till the next day.
• My daughter, when your Father was riding a
bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride
with him, not because I didn't see those men in their
little cars but because my eyes also saw those men
trekking to their farms.
• My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little
food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times
are not always the same; support him in every phase
he’s passing through.
• My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your
husband in bed , the day he paid your dowry was the
day you lost your will to do so, don’t be stiff and
try to satisfy him even if you were angry with him.
• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more
proud of you if you’re learned and not totally
dependent on him. Strive to make your own money
and while you're at it, be humble.
• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet
with your Father was open and good enough for our
discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you
understand what I mean.
• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and
firm bosoms to show our men , in fact, we had the
finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those
parts of our body, not because we were not civilized
as you people would call it, but because we know that
the eyes of men are hungry, many of them would
only come, touch and go their way.
• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now
practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove
to be equal to a man in the society but please, not
in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t
want to start counting your husbands.
• My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation
Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before
marriage, nothing he does would be good
enough after marriage.
• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night
gown , yes, because to my husband; your father, I
still want to look sexy. So, take good care of your
body, look good for your man and don’t look like a
grandma after giving birth.
• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not
interested in you coming to me always if anything
goes wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I
see some mothers controlling the homes of their sons
and daughters, I would only say; shame on them!
• My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and
well-trained children, have one voice with your
husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO
before the kids but later when you both are alone,
you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the
children will see a loophole to misbehave, either to
you or their father.
• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a
man that you’re yet to be married to , and you are
complaining that he hasn't proposed to you, oh, he
already did. Whatever he said that made you start
living with him was his proposal.
• My daughter, your generation does not see any
pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a
shame! Your father met me a virgin and he brought
more yams to my parents and up till today, he’s still
proud of me when we discuss in that direction.
• My daughter, I know that no man out there is
complete, but when you are looking for your tall,
slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater,
please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that
will give you the respect you deserve as a woman.
• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture
and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry . In
some part of Africa, you knee down to greet your
man’s parents while in some part outside Africa; you
can even call them by their first name and ask for
a
handshake. Whatever they believe in, if you've
chosen him, believe it with him also.
• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a married
man, whether his excuse was that he doesn't find
happiness with his wife or he would have married you
if he had met you first, if you ever try it, I curse
you already.
• My daughter, when I say over 52 years of
marriage , it wasn't that I did not see any reason to
leave your father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his
faults, i forgave him to stay married.
• My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have
gathered over the years. and If I had taken my
time to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn't
last like that of your father and I, then I had
wished i never gave birth to you.
Source: Nairaland
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