You are dating an incredibly good-looking guy. You both feel the attraction
building up. What do you do? Now is not the time to decide! It’s too difficult
to think when passion overtakes you. You must decide before you go on the
date what your limits will be.
1) Do not be unequally yoked.
Take II Cor. 6:14 seriously.
Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a
partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? (NLT)
If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with
Christ, you are playing with fire. If you fall in love, what will you do? Don’t
let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it
off later.
2) Put on the armor of God daily.
You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Are you spending time
with God? Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security?
You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God ( Eph.6:10-20 ).
3) Put obedience over passion.
Not everything we do that’s right, feels good. In fact, usually the opposite is
true. It feels incredibly good to give in to passion. But, the authority of Christ
needs to take precedence over your physical drives. Society tells you to give
in to the moment. Christ tells you to be obedient to His word.
4) Physical expression must be appropriate.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t
mean anything goes if you are engaged. Physical touch should be in the
context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal
need.
5) Limits must be set mutually.
Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. Mutual boundary
keeping reflects maturity.
6) Examine your personal motives.
What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego,
meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
7) Is there too much physical and too little other?
If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are
out of balance. If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical
relationship, rethink the relationship.
8) Less is better.
If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do
it. You should respect and honor each other. Don’t push a date to do
anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.
9) Be guided by love versus lust.
Love is the fruit of the Spirit. From love comes self-control. Operate in love,
not lust.
10) Allow the Holy Spirit to direct and lead you.
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
Special Note: If you are a teen, you must honor your parents and respect
their counsel ( Ephesians 6:2-3 ). You are subject to parental authority. Don’t
be sexually active just because you can get away with it.
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