I used to think i was ugly. Can you believe that? Fine boy like me. (see them, you
want to gan zoom my pix abi?)
But really, i used to think i was horribly bad looking. Growing up, i had pimples on my
face that were the same size as big rocks and those ''rocks'' really messed up with
my head.
I'm in my early twenties now, the pimples are gone and these days when i look in the
mirror i feel myself *winks* you can now zoom my pix and feel the boy.
But you see, on a more serious note - negative thoughts are some really serious
things. Thing is, everybody has it from time to time. ''i'm i good enough'', ''i'm
broke, she won't like me'', ''my boobs are too small'', ''why is she not moaning, is my
stuff too small'' Name it.
Recently i started having mine, serious mind wreaking negative thoughts - this time
it wasn't about my looks - it was about my future.
But you see, i have come to realize something: your limiting beliefs, your negative
thoughts - you can't eliminate them just by thinking positively. As in, all these think
positive talk is hogwash. Chill, stop looking at this write up like i just slapped you.
I have like 8 years experience of fighting negative thoughts so i know what i'm
talking about *winks* now, let's do some praticals- stop reading this for a moment
and in your head, try not to think of elephants.
It was hard abi, the more you tried not to think of elephants the more you thought
of them, right. Now, what this means is there is no way to stop thinking a thought
just by telling yourself not to think about it.
Lets take this over to positive thinking. You can't overcome the negative thoughts
that come with trying to climb a stage and speak, for instance, just by saying - ''i
can do it'' lia lia, it won't work. Deep down you know you can't speak in public.
Hehehe. I know you are looking at this writeup with a raised eyebrow and you are
asking - ''oya cow, so, what works?'' *smiles* what works is Positive action. Chill, i will
explain.
I used to have this phobia of public speaking as a tenneger. One day i went like - ''e
don do, i need to end this fear'' so everytime before i go on stage i will say this to
myself - ''if i fall hand make i fall hand'' then i will go on stage and speak. Of
course, i ''fell hand'' from time.
This is where the trick comes in - after the whole speaking thing i will analyse
everything that went fine during the speech. Things like, thank God o, i no fall for
the stage step.
Thank God i didn't forget my speech.
What this does is to trick your mind into
beliving that things will always go fine during your speeches. You can't say - ''i
believe i'm pretty'' when you know that everybody knows your face is like war.
You sef won't believe it na, so how can your subconsious? The way to fight negativity
from your looks is to focus on something else you've got and in the long run you will
discover you feel so good about yourself that you don't care about your face
anymore.
For instance: an ugly babe with nice hips shouldn't say - ''i'm beautiful'', she should
rather say- my face dey like shit but my hips na die'' shey you grab?
A short guy shouldn't say - ''mehn, i tall gan'' nah, your mind won't believe it.
Rather he should say: ''i'm short sha but my personality can do the magic of
tallness''
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